10 Ways To Avoid Falling In Love With Anyone

Psychologists say there are giveaways to watch out for.

Manik Soni
5 min readJan 25, 2021


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Have you ever find yourself falling uncontrollably in love with the wrong person? When you start to like someone, you don't actually fall in love with them instantly. The feeling you experience is infatuation.

Most of us who have a crush on someone end up falling more in love with each passing day, not because we’re so helplessly drawn towards that person, but because we voluntarily choose to let that person sink their hooks deeper into our heart. And then keep on blaming the situation.

Infatuation, as much as it feels like an inescapable wall that blocks your view from everything else, will eventually fade with the passage of time.

So, if you are in this situation use these 10 ways to avoid falling in love if you surely know it’s wrong for you.

1. Don’t be a stalker

As satisfying as it sounds and also as it feels to stay updated on this person’s private life, avoid opening their Facebook, Instagram, page every hour to see if they’ve been up to something like whom this person is following recently, what comments that person is posting to the pictures and status. The more you obsess over this person, the bigger the part they’ll play in your life.

The solution to this problem is that, try to limit the number of times you stalk them on social media every day so that eventually you can start to completely ignore them.

2. Don’t be a people pleaser

It’s alright to turn down a request or be rude to this person now and then. If you know this person particularly well and they ask you to spend time together frequently, learn to turn them down once in a while.

Frequent spending time leads to an obsession that is poisonous. Remember, you’re trying to heal in this situation, and the more time you spend with them, the bigger and deeper your wound would get.

3. Distract Yourself

Don't let this person control your mind. As difficult as it may seem to stop thinking of this person, it's definitely doable. Controlling your mind is a difficult task because the mind is so powerful that is difficult to control but easy to distract because the focus on controlling eventually leads to thinking of that person while leads to obsession.

With distraction I mean to say is that, keep yourself distracted with new activities that need your attention. And each time you feel lonely, or idle, think about something else that makes you happy.

4. Don't get too friendly

Avoid long conversations with this person. It may seem satisfying at the same point in time but it eventually leads to obsession and sensitivity towards your emotional site. And most importantly, completely avoid late-night texts or phone calls where both of you share intimate details of each other lives.

You have to remember that in this person, you aren't getting friendlier with this person, you're falling deeper in love, and that's not good at all. You should know your limits otherwise your heart gets wounded deeper inside.

5. The bad side

Every one of us has flaws. And one of the best ways to get over someone you love is by constantly focusing on their bad side and picking their flaws. So, Each time you meet this guy or girl or when you remember their bad side or, the things they say that hurt you.

It’ll work a lot better if you could even make a list of reasons behind why you need to stop loving this person and look at it now and then. You need to be cautious with the people who play with your emotions on a temporary basis.

6. Avoid getting physically intimate

You might feel like you’re floating on the cloud each time you cuddle up with them or hold their hands. But the moment you walk away from them, you’d come crashing down to the ground.

Even if it feels like a stupid thing to do, avoid cozying up with this person. It will do you no good. There was a time I use to do stuff like holding hands and cuddle with another person, and it feels like moral support but I don't understand this point that it weakens me from inside and I got so much obsessed with that person eventually.

7. Focus on someone else

Sometimes, the easiest way to get over someone is by getting under someone else. If you’re having a really hard time distracting yourself from the one you love, try to divert your attention to someone else.

It could be a rebound relationship or a bit of flirty banter for a few days. Sometimes, flirting with someone else is by far, the easiest and the most fun way to stop yourself from falling head over heels in love with a particular person. It might sound disloyalty but you must understand that you are resisting yourself from being obsessed and true love is the one where there is the freedom to live your life not being obsessed with each other.

8. Distance yourself from them

This can be particularly painful, especially if you’re working with them or forced to interact with them on a daily basis.

But as difficult as this may be, try to avoid them or keep your distance from them. I can understand your pain if you are facing this type of situation in your life, you must keep this thing in mind that you are getting emotionally stronger with every single day in your life.

9. Ignore or avoid the attention

Even if you’re in a stable relationship with someone, flirty attention from someone you fancy or place in high regard can always make you weak in the knees.

So if you’re not ready for anything serious or if you want to avoid falling in love with them, avoid the attention at every instance even if it feels good. If you are not the kind of person who avoids people it may be difficult for you but you keep yourself first in order to tackle the situation.

10. Realize the difference

There’s a difference between falling in love with someone and finding attractive and interesting. Most of the people unable to make the difference between the two and gets emotionally weak.

Just because you think a guy or a girl is attractive, funny, or really wonderful doesn't mean you love them. This difference and feeling a person must understand otherwise there will be always confusion between either of the persons.

Perhaps, you’ve just assumed that what you feel is love when I could just be admiration. After all, there is nothing wrong with thinking a particular person is wonderful, and there’s no rule that forces you to fall in love with everyone who seems wonderful.

For all you know, the happy feeling you experience when you meet this person could just be admiration for them, and not necessarily love.

If you’ve noticed any one of these situations or points that I have pointed out, you can make efforts to change it. I know it’s not easy and hard to change, but it’s worth it.



Manik Soni